Letting Go.

I’ve got something a little more serious to post today & to get off my chest.

I’ve been holding onto a lot of negative emotions lately, sometimes without even realizing it. It’s really been impacting me in every area of my life, so it’s time for me to finally let a lot of these things go. They’re not helping me make positive changes in my life, they are only holding me back and just frustrating me.

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I will let go of:

  • my past mistakes — Stop dwelling on the past, I can’t change it. I can only move on and learn from it to be better. I will forgive myself.
  • my negative body image — Yes, I want to change my body to be healthier. But being this unhappy isn’t helping me make those changes. I need to love myself as I am right now, so that once I do make those changes, I will only love myself even more.
  • feeling inadequate — I don’t know why I get so insecure, to be honest. I just need to have more confidence in myself and my abilities. A positive mindset and a positive life. I think positivity is becoming the theme here…
  • my bad habits — I need to pay attention to these bad habits so I can identify them and eradicate the problem. Whether it’s snacking, procrastinating, or not thinking things through… these habits aren’t serving me.
  • my impulsive spending — This goes with the previous bullet point. As much as I like having nice things, at this point in my life, they aren’t necessary. I need to save money, pay off my student loans, and stop buying unnecessary things.
  • comparing myself to others — This ties in with feeling inadequate (and sometimes my negative body image). I read recently a blog post that said something about how we’re all on our own journeys and living our own lives. I have to appreciate the things I have in my life and know that I am exactly where I’m supposed to be. Also, even if someone’s life looks perfect on a blog or social media or whatever, I’m not seeing the full picture. Every person has their own struggles.
  • my insecurities — This is more broad and also entails some of the bullets already mentioned, but basically I just need to have more confidence (another reiterated theme).
  • my expectations — Life and society and my family and myself have all influenced my expectations of how things are “supposed to be” – in my personal life and professional life. I’ll just reiterate this: I am exactly where I’m supposed to be.ย (Also need to just focus on the present and be in the moment.) Read this great post by Katie from Call Me Trouble for more on this idea.

I’m sure there’s many more things that it would be good for me to let go of, but for now I think I’ll work on the above. Letting go isn’t easy, especially when you’ve unknowingly held onto these things for so long, it just became a habit really. But if I want a happier life, I need to stop letting these things bring me down. So, in true Anchored in CLE fashion… here’s a few images I found on Pinterest that I like ๐Ÿ™‚

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Okay, I think that’s enough for one post… haha. Thanks for listening to my ramblings & inner thoughts.

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  • Wow, I couldn’t agree more with this post! Sometimes it’s easy to get bogged down in the negativity and forget about all of the positive things going on in life. I’m definitely guilty of this, too. This was so inspiring (and I love the pins). Thanks for sharing!

  • Negative feelings from the past used to bring me down so much. For years, I would pass my old high school while driving and all of the bad feelings from high school related to being bullied and non-athletic would make me feel awful about myself. I had no interest in talking to any of my former HS classmates either (even those who were nice to me). It wasn’t until the 2013 Cleveland Half Marathon–when I ran past my old high school and thought about how far I had come in life since then and about all of the great things that I have going on in my life now–that I was unable to let go of all of the painful memories of the past.

    Man, I used to be trapped by impulse buying too. It’s a hard habit to break! Guys aren’t immune to it – I’d be out at the mall, see a football jersey or a video game I wanted, and I’d wind up putting it on my credit card without a second thought. It took me SO LONG to get out of that stupid credit card debt – never again! The entire experience made me pretty cheap though – we found great deals on furniture for our new home at prices that are several hundred dollars cheaper than other places but I was really hesitant to plunk down so much money at one time even though it meant that we were saving big money in the long run LOL.

    • Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Joe! Yeah, high school wasn’t exactly a walk in the park for me either. Luckily I held on to a few good friends and haven’t looked back since. I’m definitely more interested in focusing on bettering myself and I think letting the negativity go will really help in that.

      I definitely understand – my boyfriend (though isn’t as bad as me) does still buy things like hats and jerseys. He is lucky enough to not have any student loans though. I also am glad that I don’t frequent the mall hardly at all anymore. Though online shopping is my ultimate downfall… it’s so convenient haha.

      Thanks for stopping by my blog!

    • Thank you Megan! It took awhile to realize what was going on, I just felt unhappy, but then it was like a light switch was flipped. Hello, I’m making myself unhappy by holding onto all of this negativity! haha.

      Thanks so much for checking out my blog!

  • I can really relate to this post… A lot of things you mentioned are things that I need to let go of myself. I’m terrible with the impulsive spending, but have done a lot better this month since I’m on a spending ban this month…It’s a lot harder than I thought it would be, but I am seeing results and was able to open a savings account today! Good luck with these challenges!

    • Thank you so much Lisa! I think a lot of these things are simply just part of being human. I think I want to try that no-spend month thing at some point! Good luck to you as well ๐Ÿ™‚

  • So many people think that letting go means they’re weak, etc. But sometimes it’s harder to let go than anything else. Everyone is different – gotta do what’s right for YOU and only YOU know what that is! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Thanks for stopping by! I know, it certainly isn’t easy and I feel it will be a daily struggle, but I hope I can overcome it! I’ll let you know how I feel in another year or so haha.

  • We’ve all felt this way before and I’ve always believed that being honest with your feelings is the first step to being truly happy. I like that you mentioned the “journey” of others. That’s precisely what I live by. In fact, I just said those exact words to a friend yesterday who was complaining about a relative purchasing a million dollar home. It’s their journey, their path…not ours, yours, or mine! It took me to get through my 20s to fully believe in that and own it. My friends were getting married and having children left and right and I was starting to think something was wrong with me. Not true, that’s their plan, not mine. I also recommend taking breaks from your blog, Pinterest and Instagram for a full week about once a month. We all need to social media detox.

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